"If I cannot listen to the subtle manifestation of rich reality in my environment, I will necessarily try to impose my wilful codes on others. If I am not open to reality and do not obey the voice of reality, a terrible distortion takes place. Sooner or later I will turn the whole relationship around: Instead of listening to reality in people and events, I become convinced that reality in people and events should listen to me."

[Adrian van Kaam, The Art of Existential Counseling, Dimension Books, 1966, 80.]

The Courage to Speak

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Sometimes we hold things inside that  do harm to us and others. A pain that is not transformed will surely be transmitted..

Here is a remarkable woman who shares what it is like to say the unsayable - click here to watch the video